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by Kim Flowers EvansKim Evanshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03512159440778884081noreply@blogger.comBlogger46125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6970959869992656374.post-44090619206527025572014-10-14T12:24:00.001-04:002014-10-14T12:25:16.481-04:00A new homeDear Readers,<br />
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I have transitioned my blog to a new name and home on my website. Please visit <a href="http://www.kimevansstudio.com/blog">http://www.kimevansstudio.com/blog</a> to read and comment on my current posts. THANK YOU!<br />
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~ KimKim Evanshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03512159440778884081noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6970959869992656374.post-67538572770084460032012-12-03T15:17:00.000-05:002012-12-03T15:17:13.527-05:00A glass of rocks<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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An image popped into my mind today while I was sitting at my desk. <br />
<br />A glass of rocks. It could have been a fragment left over from a Stephen Covey "7 Habits of Highly Successful People" exercise I did back in the late nineties. I remember something about focusing on your "big rocks" instead of the sand or something like that. (Like I said, it was a fragment.)<br />
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But I'm seeing the image differently today. I'm seeing the rocks as the circumstances, responsibilities, and challenges life presents to us at any given time. Some of them may be very difficult to manage, but there they sit nonetheless.<br />
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And I think of pouring a nice glass of water over those rocks. And this water represents love. Love filling the glass full, surrounding the crappy, painful, space-consuming rocks, and marinating them. Love has a way of infiltrating things like that, a liquid light flowing around and through the dark solids. And I'm thankful to know that. It gives me hope.Kim Evanshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03512159440778884081noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6970959869992656374.post-75880966941538463052011-11-10T12:11:00.003-05:002012-09-03T09:38:27.463-04:00Giving voice to invisible loss<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgmbfqcMrzwQJodzcfnEX-Ct9kSlRK-n3YNLt5_IG_gdyLewYZYEh9UqADui0hWqj0FNrVypxRhxXVEcyzUNv1fN5jZmQ0VXGgKVyL-TBq9m5Uripm6eXcv9MX0vOoQZru8Vi32_8UXyX4/s1600/The_Moment_I_Knew_frontcover-265x398.jpg"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><img alt="" border="0" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5673416333494286850" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgmbfqcMrzwQJodzcfnEX-Ct9kSlRK-n3YNLt5_IG_gdyLewYZYEh9UqADui0hWqj0FNrVypxRhxXVEcyzUNv1fN5jZmQ0VXGgKVyL-TBq9m5Uripm6eXcv9MX0vOoQZru8Vi32_8UXyX4/s320/The_Moment_I_Knew_frontcover-265x398.jpg" style="cursor: hand; cursor: pointer; display: block; height: 320px; margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center; width: 213px;" /></span></a><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">The essay contains a scene in which I'm having dinner with my family at McCormick's Creek State Park's Canyon Inn. it's a comforting scene that occurred a few weeks post-trauma, on a mini-retreat with my husband and daughter, then six years old. This October, we returned for a day of hiking at McCormick's Creek followed by dinner at Inn, where we found ourselves sitting at the very same table as we did seven years ago. We were even seated in the same positions: Olivia, now thirteen, to my left, and Trent to my right. It was one of those full circle experiences for me: an opportunity to take stock of how far I've come; to notice the degree to which the pain and uncertainty have subsided.</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">I continue to write the full story of how these early pregnancy losses changed the trajectory of my life. With each section I add to the narrative, I become more grateful for my life. Writing has given me a way of healing, identifying beliefs I held that perhaps served me at the time, but I now I see as false: particularly the belief that God had abandoned me.</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">I continue to be humbled by the amount of time, dedication, and discipline it requires of me to write this book. I now bow in awe to anyone who has ever written a book. Having my essay published in <b>The Moment I Knew</b> has given me fuel to continue writing each essay that will eventually appear in the finished work, to believe that my words are readable and this intimate story worth sharing. If all goes well, I hope to have the first draft of the manuscript done by mid-December.</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">I am deeply grateful to editor, Terri Spahr Nelson, for selecting my essay for publication in this fine anthology of women's words. </span></div>
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</span>Kim Evanshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03512159440778884081noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6970959869992656374.post-89516997002157368432011-09-11T11:59:00.004-04:002011-09-11T12:11:56.192-04:00Ten years ago today<div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:'trebuchet ms';">I was filled with a sense of calm as Olivia and I started our day. The sky was crystal blue, the sun shone brightly. A yellow cast in the air hinted of early Fall, my favorite season in Indiana. I pulled into the Martinsville Wal-Mart parking lot. I had just dropped Olivia off at preschool, so I had a couple of hours to run errands. The Jeep needed new tires. While I waited for them to replace the tires, I strolled up and down the aisles. The Wal-Mart television network was on video monitors around the store. I was in the women’s clothing department when I started to notice the audio was broadcasting over their speaker system. </span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:'trebuchet ms';"><br /></span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:'trebuchet ms';">“…World Trade Center… bombing…” </span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:'trebuchet ms';"><br /></span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:'trebuchet ms';">The words entered and left my consciousness as I looked for clothing in my size on the clearance rack. I dismissed what I heard, wondering why they were talking about something that happened in 1993. “Must be a historical news report,” I thought, continuing to shop, “I’m glad they caught those terrorists.” As that thought registered in my mind I felt a sense of comfort.</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:'trebuchet ms';"><br /></span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:'trebuchet ms';">For a historical news report, however, it had an immediate and frantic nature that caused me to listen more closely. </span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:'trebuchet ms';"><br /></span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:'trebuchet ms';">“The World Trade Center is under attack,” the reporter said. The historical feel I previously imagined was gone. </span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:'trebuchet ms';"><br /></span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:'trebuchet ms';">“What?” I thought, “Didn’t they catch the terrorists who did that?” Then I remembered they hadn’t caught them all. It was impossible to catch them all. </span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'trebuchet ms'; font-size: small; "><br /></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:'trebuchet ms';"></span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'trebuchet ms'; font-size: small; ">I grabbed my purse and left my cart by the exercise wear and went to Electronics. I found an employee at the cash register. </span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'trebuchet ms'; font-size: small; "><br /></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'trebuchet ms'; font-size: small; "></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'trebuchet ms'; font-size: small; ">“Do you know what’s going on?” I asked, checking my purse to make sure I had my cell phone. It was there, and on. I was always sure to turn it on in case Olivia’s teacher needed to call me.</span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:'trebuchet ms';"><br /></span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:'trebuchet ms';"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"></span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:'trebuchet ms';">“This is IT,” she said while she ripped a receipt from the cash register. She seemed to be so certain, and I wondered how she knew so much more than I.</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:'trebuchet ms';"><br /></span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:'trebuchet ms';">“What?” I asked, immediately wanting to place all of my trust in her, as if she were my mother, minister, or some other keeper of the Truth.</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:'trebuchet ms';"><br /></span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:'trebuchet ms';">“This is War,” she said. “We’re under attack.”</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:'trebuchet ms';"><br /></span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:'trebuchet ms';">An image of fighter jets flying over my house in Morgantown flashed through my mind. My tailbone tingled. My heart started beating faster.</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:'trebuchet ms';"><br /></span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:'trebuchet ms';">“Are we safe here?” I asked Cash Register Woman, still looking to her for the Truth.</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:'trebuchet ms';"><br /></span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:'trebuchet ms';">“They’ll probably target areas where there are military bases first,” she replied matter-of-factly. I immediately thought of Camp Atterbury, a National Guard training facility not far from our home. My stomach shifted.</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:'trebuchet ms';"><br /></span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:'trebuchet ms';">A few people had started to gather around the TV screens, which were now all tuned to CNN. I walked over to see an image of a reporter I didn’t recognize in downtown New York. The image was repeated on screens across the entire wall, like a fly might see it. The camera panned upward to the top of one of the World Trade Center buildings, and smoke was billowing upward against the same crystal blue sky I had just seen only moments earlier outside in the parking lot. Then the news cut to a tape from a few minutes before of the same building with no smoke billowing out. Then an airplane sliced the sky in half horizontally and slammed nose first into the building. Screaming was audible on the tape. My jaw dropped.</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:'trebuchet ms';"><br /></span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:'trebuchet ms';">A protective urge immediately arose inside me. I needed to get my child and go home. I went to the automotive department. “Is my car done?” I asked, trying to catch my breath.</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:'trebuchet ms';"><br /></span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:'trebuchet ms';">“Just a few more minutes, Ma’am,” the attendant told me.</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:'trebuchet ms';"><br /></span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:'trebuchet ms';">I sighed and sat down in one of the plastic chairs in the small waiting area. My senses were amplified. The coffee in the pot on the table in front of me smelled like it had been cooking on the warmer for a few hours. I tried to be calm. I was remarkably successful at flipping back into normalcy for moments at a time, reading the newspaper, watching another customer slide a key off his ring and hand it to the attendant, studying my cuticles.</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:'trebuchet ms';"><br /></span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:'trebuchet ms';">I was startled from my seat by the sound of my name. The Jeep was ready. I paid for the service, walked across the garage, opened the driver’s side door and got in. I immediately drove to Olivia’s preschool and parked along the curb across from the play yard. They were already outside. The children were a palette of color and energy, painting the fence with water, climbing the pine tree, swinging, pulling each other the wagon. They were enjoying the last carefree minutes of life as they and their parents knew it in America. I approached the gate and captured the attention of Ms. Rebecca, Olivia’s teacher.</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:'trebuchet ms';"><br /></span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:'trebuchet ms';">“Did you hear what happened?” I asked.</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:'trebuchet ms';"><br /></span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:'trebuchet ms';">“Yeah,” she said. Here widened eyes were her only physical reaction. “We’re trying not to show any alarm around the children. Would you like to go ahead and take Olivia home?”</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:'trebuchet ms';"><br /></span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:'trebuchet ms';">“Please.” I said.</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:'trebuchet ms';"><br /></span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:'trebuchet ms';">Olivia saw me and came over to the fence. Her blond hair looked almost white in the sunlight. </span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:'trebuchet ms';"><br /></span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:'trebuchet ms';">“Hi sweetie,” I said, “time to go home.” I buckled her in her car seat with extra care.</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:'trebuchet ms';"><br /></span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:'trebuchet ms';">I watched the news for the rest of the day. Images of the planes flying into the buildings were repeated over and over and over. The people in New York cramming their cars into the tunnel to leave the city. The reporters standing in front of the buildings as they collapsed. I was soaking it all in, not able to process it yet. Just absorbing. Numbing. Not knowing yet how much life was going to change, on so many levels.</span></span></div>Kim Evanshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03512159440778884081noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6970959869992656374.post-16379973884687389072011-09-07T17:52:00.004-04:002011-09-08T09:11:19.409-04:00<div>Dear Readers,</div><div><br /></div><div>In an effort to consolidate the blogs I've written over the past two+ years, I'd like to share a list of links to the monthly (give or take) blogs I wrote for the Poplar Grove Muse from July 2010-May 2011. While you're visiting "The Muse," I recommend you also read some of the wonderful writing you'll find there from a high-quality panel of women writers.</div><div><br /></div><div><a href="http://poplargroveschoolhouse.blogspot.com/2011/05/dreams-and-determination.html">Dreams and Determination</a> (May 2011)</div><div><br /></div><div><a href="http://poplargroveschoolhouse.blogspot.com/2011/04/40-shades-of-grey.html">40 Shades of Grey</a> (April 2011)</div><div><br /></div><div><a href="http://poplargroveschoolhouse.blogspot.com/2011/03/summer-camp-at-poplar-grove.html">Summer Camp at Poplar Grove</a> (March 2011)</div><div><br /></div><div><a href="http://poplargroveschoolhouse.blogspot.com/2011/02/footprints-on-campus_03.html">Footprints on Campus</a> (February 2011)</div><div><br /></div><div><a href="http://poplargroveschoolhouse.blogspot.com/2010/12/new-years-intentions.html">New Year's Intentions</a> (December 2010)</div><div><br /></div><div><a href="http://poplargroveschoolhouse.blogspot.com/2010/10/eight-seeds.html">Eight Seeds</a> (October 2010)</div><div><br /></div><div><a href="http://poplargroveschoolhouse.blogspot.com/2010/09/adventures-with-fresh-produce.html">Adventures with Fresh Produce</a> (September 2010)</div><div><br /></div><div><a href="http://poplargroveschoolhouse.blogspot.com/2010/08/in-defense-of-eat-pray-love.html">In Defense of <i>Eat, Pray, Love</i></a> (August 2010)</div><div><br /></div><div><a href="http://poplargroveschoolhouse.blogspot.com/2010/07/tiger-encounters.html">Tiger Encounters</a> (July 2010)</div><div><br /></div><div>Warmly,</div><div>Kim</div>Kim Evanshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03512159440778884081noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6970959869992656374.post-81650715425534637812011-08-11T22:40:00.006-04:002011-08-12T00:05:17.956-04:00Rip Currents<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" style="font-style: italic;" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj8MSRy0mdiqpqZ7SDR_6O4JtuS-sDKlXfkAvSLd7JfAzvk7RlcrMbKppom11kuuLCDYprpTYa028tSW3AnBP2pUffRif4nzusk4hByqWh8iihWvQXFuT6G72eC7f7uZo1cJdanwIfJ2_g/s1600/Rip_current_sign_507.gif"><img style="float: left; margin: 0pt 10px 10px 0pt; cursor: pointer; width: 225px; height: 320px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj8MSRy0mdiqpqZ7SDR_6O4JtuS-sDKlXfkAvSLd7JfAzvk7RlcrMbKppom11kuuLCDYprpTYa028tSW3AnBP2pUffRif4nzusk4hByqWh8iihWvQXFuT6G72eC7f7uZo1cJdanwIfJ2_g/s320/Rip_current_sign_507.gif" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5639812008955514994" border="0" /></a><span style="font-size:85%;"><span style="font-style: italic;">Blogger's Note:</span> Cozumel Dreamin is back from hiatus! (At least for today…I don't want to put too much pressure on myself…read on for more context :) When my gig as a community columnist for the Herald-Times came to a close in the summer of 2010, I migrated over to write with a talented panel of writing friends at the <a href="http://poplargroveschoolhouse.blogspot.com/">Poplar Grove Muse</a>. Now that gig is over, and I am happy to be back here at my original blogspace, Cozumel Dreamin. So, basically I never went away, I just migrated…and I know my hearty handful of readers personally, so this isn't big news to anyone :) Anyway, enough about that.</span>
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<br />Last week, my family finally got to take our Michigan vacation. We wanted someplace cooler, less humid than the sauna back home in Bloomington, AND we wanted beach. We got our wish. Picturesque Saugatuck couldn't have been a more perfect place. Think artsy village shops on a river with a beautiful Lake Michigan beach literally around the bend. Think amazing summer art school (<a href="http://www.ox-bow.org/">Ox Bow</a>) where I'm now fantasizing we'll send Olivia in a few years, as well as be an artist-in-residence myself. Think lovely fresh water beach with soft sand.
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<br />Our first full day at the beach was interesting, however. It was quite windy, and there was a visible layer of blowing sand hovering at knee level which added some crunch to our tuna salad picnic. The surf relentlessly pounded the shore all day. Suddenly the "What To Do if You Get Caught in a Rip Current" sign posted at the concession stand became relevant. Nevertheless, my family and I cautiously joined the sizeable number of people playing in the water. The waves were fun to navigate, cresting and foaming, pulling us many yards down the beach from our entry point. I was the first to go and lay on my towel to catch my breath, sand stinging my body, wishing I had a beach chair. I told Trent to watch Olivia like a hawk My protective mother instincts intact, even after 13 years.
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<br />Later the evening news reported on the rip currents up and down the Lake Michigan shoreline that day. Some beaches closed due to the severity. People die in these things.
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<br />I've been thinking about that day at the beach ever since we got back home. The relentlessness and loss of control was an apt metaphor for my current experience with my professional life. In my effort to neutralize the uncertainty of a freelancer's income, I took on a part time job about 9 months ago. Ever since I took that job, it feels like my income streams have been pounding me like those waves. The illusory captain's wheel has been out of my hands, spinning of its own accord. While I've appreciated the abundance, I've been challenged to maintain it energetically. I've been short-tempered, negative, tired. Abundance doesn't feel so great when you are drowning.
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<br />I know there's something for me to learn in this experience (isn't there always?). Maybe it's time to learn how to direct the flow.
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<br />I'm not asking the flow to stop, I'm not even asking it to change, unless it wants to. What I'm asking (praying) for is the confidence to get a hold of the captain's wheel and direct my vessel through active waters. This might mean extending completion dates for some projects. This might mean taking a day off if I need to catch up. This might mean quoting a premium rate if I'm being asked to complete a rush job. If all else fails, this might mean saying no sometimes. The world won't stop if I say no.
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<br />Maybe I just need to follow the instructions on the sign:
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<br />If caught in a rip current:
<br /><ul><li>Don't fight the current</li><li>Swim out of the current, then to shore</li><li>If you can't escape, float or tread water</li><li>If you need help, call or wave for assistance</li></ul>
<br />Kim Evanshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03512159440778884081noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6970959869992656374.post-3790418881366939852010-06-17T17:26:00.002-04:002010-06-17T17:38:18.225-04:00Feedback, both positive and negative, notable for writer<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg_8rkWREp879hDBR_yMv7XmKwGYx-YSUpoQCMt6_cWkX7py2fFBLjAg_V4GV3KPP-C1wKuptYciNDfSYWYnYKRW-qcMw2ONq65OTjy_uTpxIus-vcouZAfAeX1pBZjUmxD9oBg7_SPnU0/s1600/gratitude9.jpg"><img style="float: left; margin: 0pt 10px 10px 0pt; cursor: pointer; width: 200px; height: 150px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg_8rkWREp879hDBR_yMv7XmKwGYx-YSUpoQCMt6_cWkX7py2fFBLjAg_V4GV3KPP-C1wKuptYciNDfSYWYnYKRW-qcMw2ONq65OTjy_uTpxIus-vcouZAfAeX1pBZjUmxD9oBg7_SPnU0/s200/gratitude9.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5483860069103810898" border="0" /></a><br /><p>by Kim Evans for the <a href="http://www.heraldtimesonline.com/">Herald-Times</a><br /></p><p>It’s hard to believe, but this is my 28th and final column. A year has blown by, and I find myself writing the parting words I knew I’d eventually be searching for. </p><p>I am not fond of good-byes; yet, the time has come. In doing so, I’d like to share some notable moments from my past year as a community columnist: </p><p>The online poster who threatened to report me to Child Protective Services after reading about me letting my toddler daughter play naked in the yard back in 2001, citing my poor upbringing by a mother who threw peanut shells down a man’s pants. </p><p>The gentleman who sent me letters warning against the elusive “I-me-my” syndrome, complete with clippings of my column in which each of these pronouns was circled and counted. I continue to wonder how one is supposed to express one’s opinion in the third person; however, I was flattered that this reader took the time to write and compare me to Bob Hammel, although I never broke his record “I-me-my” word count. </p><p>A large number of online comments followed my column about mothers balancing work and family. I was excited that I seemed to touch on a sensitive topic and stir a public conversation. </p><p>I gained confidence in writing about the poor public relations on the part of the Bloomington Area Arts Council and their dealing with the funding shortfalls for the Waldron Arts Center. </p><p>I thank the BAAC board member who invited me to meet and discuss my ideas for bridge-building, even though I did not accept the invitation. Suddenly, I felt the responsibility of having my opinion published in a public forum. </p><p>While the MCCSC budget cuts largely felt too overwhelming for me to tackle, I was able to write about my Bradford Woods memories. There are still columns to be written about the importance of art and music education in public schools. </p><p>It was fun to have my column about the long journey through the College Mall ending in a double rainbow linked online to photographs of the rainbow submitted by H-T readers. </p><p>My biggest honor came after my graduation address to sixth graders was published, and I discovered my words had inspired individuals to quote excerpts from this column at local life celebration and graduation ceremonies. </p><p>This is when I truly felt the power of connecting through the written word. </p><p>As I look back, I see a body of work I can be proud of. </p><p>This gig has allowed me to develop my writing voice, and for that I am very grateful to Bob Zaltsberg for the opportunity. </p><p>I also would like to thank the H-T editors for writing great titles for me on those occasions when I drew blanks. </p><p>A big thank you goes out to my writing community at Women Writing for (a) Change, whom often listened to these columns in draft form and continue to celebrate my words. </p><p>Also thanks to my Friday night women friends for all their support; and my family, particularly my husband, Trent, for his constant encouragement, and my daughter, Olivia, for her extremely helpful feedback on my drafts. </p><p>And finally, I thank the entire Bloomington community for helping this be such a great place to call home. </p><p>Farewell for now. </p><p>Starting in July, you can find me blogging monthly for the <a href="http://poplargroveschoolhouse.blogspot.com/">Poplar Grove Muse</a> and here on Cozumel Dreamin.<em> </em></p>Kim Evanshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03512159440778884081noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6970959869992656374.post-88786971162139065072010-06-03T09:54:00.003-04:002010-06-03T10:07:37.193-04:00All encouraged to take advantage of the collective sigh of summer<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiOv7YXm8ZLLaeNmqQkXb2PyCN6ACuGbmF8-lPn0A7E9YmAy3VAthsoNpsmYg7FU7-4wVzIPuVkZSRCMNFfJHYY_R-s_VuYer2BkBGq9qqRVJEphvfIPmJ_bYv1GDLuUNv26r6c8yxWlDc/s1600/Frog.jpg"><img style="float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 200px; height: 150px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiOv7YXm8ZLLaeNmqQkXb2PyCN6ACuGbmF8-lPn0A7E9YmAy3VAthsoNpsmYg7FU7-4wVzIPuVkZSRCMNFfJHYY_R-s_VuYer2BkBGq9qqRVJEphvfIPmJ_bYv1GDLuUNv26r6c8yxWlDc/s200/Frog.jpg" border="0" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5478548578098568242" /></a><br /><span class="Apple-style-span" style=" color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family:Arial;font-size:12px;"><p style="line-height: 15px; ">by Kim Evans for the <a href="http://heraldtimesonline.com/">Herald-Times</a></p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">By the time this column makes it to print, school will officially be out for summer. I can almost hear the collective sigh as backpacks hit the floor and bare feet touch the grass.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">At least, that’s how it was when I was a kid. Now it might be more appropriate to say “when backpacks hit the floor and computer keys start clicking.”</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">It’s hard not to notice how much technology has shaped how our children spend their free time. Author Richard Louv coined the term “nature deficit disorder” in his 2005 book, “Last Child in the Woods.” He argues that the disconnection between children and nature is unhealthy, leading to behavioral problems and obesity.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">I can safely say that I did not suffer from nature deficit disorder as a child. Some of my most rooted experiences occurred in nature when I walked for miles, all by myself, through the neighbor’s yard to the pine tree forest where I’d climb trees before continuing through the fields to play in Stoute’s Creek and the old barn in a field adjacent to Ind. 37. I’d spend hours in the summer on this journey, without a worry. My mother never worried about me; not that she was neglectful, but this was a different era.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">Times are so different now. Parents think twice before letting their children camp out in the back yard, much less wander miles from home without supervision. After all, the back yard isn’t considered a secure place anymore, really.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">Technology gives us the illusion that the world is much smaller than it used to be, and that means law-abiding citizens feel like they are in closer proximity to those who may do harm to their children. News channels emphasize sensationalistic crimes as they compete for viewer attention. It’s hard not to be fearful and we’re bombarded with bad news day after day. It’s safer to let kids stay inside and play electronic games. Instead of staging a backyard variety show, complete with costumes, choreography and scripts, kids can make videos and post them to YouTube for a worldwide audience to view and comment on. Instead of hiking, kids can visit other planets through Super Mario Galaxy.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">The point of this column is not to say “technology: bad; nature: good.” If I had a Macintosh computer with simple video editing software when I was a kid, I would have been making movies, too. A Wii would have lured me away from the outdoors much more often than an electronic round of Pong. My point is to encourage parents to support their children in seeking a balance between the compelling pull of electronics and low-tech outdoor fun.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">Bloomington offers so many great outdoor opportunities close to home. Use the extra hour of daylight to rent a canoe at Lake Griffy, go fishing, hike in Brown County or McCormick’s Creek State Park, or discover the waterfall at Lower Cascades Park. If you’re home during the day, turn on the sprinkler when the sun is at its hottest. Make homemade Popsicles by freezing fruit juice in ice cube trays. In the evening, poke holes in the lid of a jar, fill it with grass and catch some lightning bugs with your child to light up their bedroom for a night. Set them free the next morning and do it all over again.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">Whatever you do, enjoy your summer. This next school year is going to be an interesting one.</p><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 15px;"><br /></span></div></span>Kim Evanshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03512159440778884081noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6970959869992656374.post-77698255231100546052010-05-20T09:24:00.001-04:002010-05-20T09:37:54.529-04:00An elementary school graduation address to the class of 2016<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj2-qjY_HBWUfKRpR3CaGnOXqj0rkszrKHxcw2ReLzGI1Wbc2G6xvZtqtW4xxo7ktc0-PhdAOT2PJRZmG6JUDJUlOZarUCSpm33b1aYXUzZQnw7m0etONUQnqE3lSqB1yfepB5omt_hOtQ/s1600/spongebobgraduation.jpg"><img style="float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 200px; height: 164px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj2-qjY_HBWUfKRpR3CaGnOXqj0rkszrKHxcw2ReLzGI1Wbc2G6xvZtqtW4xxo7ktc0-PhdAOT2PJRZmG6JUDJUlOZarUCSpm33b1aYXUzZQnw7m0etONUQnqE3lSqB1yfepB5omt_hOtQ/s200/spongebobgraduation.jpg" border="0" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5473345965877965874" /></a><br /><span class="Apple-style-span" style=" color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family:Arial;font-size:12px;"><p style="line-height: 15px; ">Dear Sixth Graders:</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">So much attention is paid this time of year to high school and college graduations that your important transition from elementary to middle school is often overlooked. Yet this may very well be the most significant transition you will make during your school years.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">Yours is the class who grew from Teletubbies to SpongeBob to YouTube. You now find yourselves at the halfway point; six years of school under your belt, and six more years to go. You may have seen the large headline on the front of Monday’s paper that read <a href="http://www.heraldtimesonline.com/pages/stars2010" target="_blank" style="text-decoration: none; color: rgb(17, 68, 119); ">“Shining Stars: The Herald-Times salutes those high school seniors who are the best and brightest hope for our future.”</a> You may wonder what you can do in the next six years to achieve such an elite distinction bestowed upon only one-half of 1 percent of your class.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">This is the time of the year when outstanding students are honored. I don’t diminish their hard work and accomplishments at all. But at the risk of sounding cliche, I would like to present the idea that each and every one of you is a star. No exceptions. Our culture has this thing about identifying stars who stand out above the rest. We have this habit of separating and dividing ourselves into categories. You can certainly see this in our politics right now, and it’s an unfortunate reality in the academic world, too.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">I invite you to take a moment at this halfway point to look at yourself and see your unique star quality. Each of us has gifts; by now, yours are probably starting to emerge. What activities bring you the most joy? What can you do well that feels effortless? What projects and creations do you enjoy sharing with others? Do you ever get so immersed in something that you lose track of time?</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">These are your clues. That secret something you have to contribute to the world is not outside of you, waiting to be discovered. It’s in you, and it has been since the day you were born.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">Middle school can be crazy. Emotions and hormones run high. I remember my own middle school experience. Each morning, the entire student body gathered in the gymnasium before the first bell rang, and a fist fight broke out 90 percent of the time. Everyone would gather around to watch until the principal intervened to break up the fight. The reality of middle school can be raw and scary.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">But you have your inner compass. Use it to help you navigate these rough waters. It will always help you find your true north. The sooner you claim your compass and learn how to use it, the better.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">Life seems to run in cycles. Sometimes you feel like you are climbing up a big hill. You may enjoy a brief time at the top. Then you begin to fall down the hill, either joyfully or fearfully, or a combination of the two. You may stay at the bottom for awhile. Then you gather yourself to climb the hill again. But this time it’s a different hill, because you have the experience of the previous hill behind you.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">Elementary school is rapidly becoming the hill behind you. Gather your friends and fasten your seat belts. Your parents, teachers and community are rooting for you. I wish you all the best as you prepare for the next phase of your school career.</p><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 15px;"><br /></span></div></span>Kim Evanshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03512159440778884081noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6970959869992656374.post-84559594217591310472010-05-06T08:44:00.005-04:002011-09-07T17:01:31.179-04:00Long journey through College Mall ends in double rainbow<div><br /></div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg1ghyphenhyphenAAWYu5pols0a25GJCqgPD2Sgah2llzULtxV9ziMa1nJudyp_03k5x58F7nbueOF-yPdyh2FY8YtEwY0ynhwPv1l0lgNtWbYFqbm_GcZNR_5EKG5aqjEBnoqMRXVPszWep7mhKe_g/s1600/rainbow.jpg" onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}"><img src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg1ghyphenhyphenAAWYu5pols0a25GJCqgPD2Sgah2llzULtxV9ziMa1nJudyp_03k5x58F7nbueOF-yPdyh2FY8YtEwY0ynhwPv1l0lgNtWbYFqbm_GcZNR_5EKG5aqjEBnoqMRXVPszWep7mhKe_g/s320/rainbow.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5468137778725097330" border="0" style="float: left; margin-top: 0pt; margin-right: 10px; margin-bottom: 10px; margin-left: 0pt; cursor: pointer; width: 320px; height: 240px; " /></a><em></em><em></em>Monday evening I was trying to maintain a sour mood when a double rainbow ruined my plans. <p>I had grown tired of seeing the hole in my husband’s back pocket worn through by his wallet, so we piled in the car and headed to the College Mall to find him some new jeans. </p><p>It was a beautiful evening — a welcome respite from all the rain — and I was second-guessing myself about spending time in the artificial, windowless environment otherwise known as the mall. </p><p>But I persisted, Macy’s coupon card in hand, strolling past the pedicure place with the heavenly massage chairs that called me like a siren’s song, past the food court, mostly empty on this night, past the video game store with boys staring at video screens while punching control pads like rats in a psychology experiment, past the barking puppy in the pet store who was about to be fed, causing me to wonder if they display the puppies in those stark cages so you feel sorry for them and want to buy them, past the Deb store, no longer displaying prom dresses in the window, much to my daughter’s dismay as she was hoping to find one to wear to her sixth grade dance next week (she wants to make an impression), past the kiosk that sells colorful cell phone face plates to suit every personality — I was especially drawn to the one with a rendering of Capt. Jack Sparrow — past the shoe store with multi-colored Chuck Taylors on display in a pyramid formation, past (yes, we took the long way) the Japanese massage place, which oozed Zen more so than usual, past the store formerly known as Kirlin’s Hallmark, strangely gone after so many years in its corner location, past the ultra-bright Pink store, and finally to the white star on a red background also known as Macy’s. </p><p>Shopping for jeans with my husband is an anti-climactic affair. He knows his size, and he knows his style. He tries them on to confirm the fit, and he’s done. He wasn’t tempted by the pink-striped dress shirts or the pastel checkered Bermuda shorts on display near the checkout counter. He just paid for the jeans and was ready to go. </p><p>On our reverse journey, we picked up some subs (an evening off from cooking was my perk for the excursion). As we finished our meal, we were surprised to hear rain hitting the dome over the food court. We approached the exit and saw it was indeed pouring outside. We decided to wait out the rain for a few minutes, and soon, the sun was shining again. The conditions were right for a rainbow. And sure enough, it was there: a glorious double rainbow — two complete arcs over the Target store, a vivid inner arc with a more faded outer one. Several people gathered to take in the sight. We agreed it was the best rainbow any of us had seen in years. I snapped a photo and promptly uploaded it to Facebook. <strong style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); font-weight: normal;">Soon photos of the rainbow from all across town appeared. </strong> </p><p>Maybe the rainbow was of the secular variety, marking the grand opening of Target’s expanded grocery section. Or maybe it was a sacred welcome rainbow for the Dalai Lama’s upcoming visit. Or maybe this rainbow was an early Mother’s Day gift. Whatever the message, it lifted my mood and gave me something to write about. And for that, I am grateful. </p><p><em>Kim Evans is a Bloomington</em><em> native and IU graduate who moved back to Bloomington in 2005 to open her graphic design studio, raise her family and circle back to her writing. She can be reached at kimevans_column</em><em>ist@att.net.</em></p>Kim Evanshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03512159440778884081noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6970959869992656374.post-39821434535501514772010-04-22T08:46:00.002-04:002010-04-22T08:54:39.231-04:00On this night, a life lesson took priority over school research project<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgX-QQ_t2GVE13Q_JImLJP1wxyaUFkjoozJWkkN9goel_EmMFal1t-wt47NeCk0_rhrqvoryNNKx2GpoKI4Gn9-hleCR50rvrY6JzVs_ItCCkIBbyKZcWn1sSVCIBHzvbc-RVFhRlpaTZQ/s1600/spring-nature-bird-robin.jpeg"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 200px; height: 171px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgX-QQ_t2GVE13Q_JImLJP1wxyaUFkjoozJWkkN9goel_EmMFal1t-wt47NeCk0_rhrqvoryNNKx2GpoKI4Gn9-hleCR50rvrY6JzVs_ItCCkIBbyKZcWn1sSVCIBHzvbc-RVFhRlpaTZQ/s200/spring-nature-bird-robin.jpeg" border="0" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5462944336088846946" /></a><span class="Apple-style-span" style=" color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family:Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;font-size:12px;"><p style="line-height: 15px; ">By Kim Evans for the <a href="http://www.heraldtimesonline.com/">Herald-Times</a></p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">Parenting for the past 12 years has proved to be an ongoing lesson in improvisation. Take Monday evening for example. Much to my daughter’s chagrin, I found myself pushing her to spend time on a school research project. With the project due in two weeks, I was trying to impart the wisdom of spreading out the work rather than waiting until the weekend before to cram it through, which is always painful.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">We’re in the thick of our battle of wills when she decides to step out on the back porch. A moment later I hear, “Mom, there’s a hurt bird out here!”</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">My eyes immediately find the guilty-looking cat across the room.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">I had left the porch door open. My husband had been laying a concrete stoop outside the back door all weekend, and the door had been off limits while the concrete set firmly enough to step on. This was the first evening our pets were enjoying the rediscovery of their passageway to the Great Outdoors — a little too much. Bird feathers were scattered over the new concrete.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">So the homework was put on the back burner in an attempt to help the bird. A shoebox was found, air holes cut in the lid, and cushy socks were stuffed inside to form a bed. The bird, a beautiful medium-sized robin, had an injured wing, and there was blood on its tail feathers, which corresponded to the blood on the cat’s chest.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">It seems like we have to relearn this lesson all over again each spring. Don’t let the cat outside. I forget over and over again that our sweet cuddly kitty named Morgan is an expert huntress.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">My daughter placed the robin in the shoebox and found a safe haven in the garage. We decided if it survived the night, we would deliver it to WildCare in the morning.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">She worried about the bird, checking on it frequently. I was touched and a little surprised that she hasn’t yet outgrown her tender heart toward animals, a tenderness that she has acted upon many times over the years, from raising tadpoles to rescuing worms from the sidewalk to persuading us to adopt the very cat who captured this bird. It was clear to me that she wasn’t using this as an excuse to avoid her homework, so I decided to stop worrying about the class project and rode out Mother Nature’s lesson with her instead.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">We kept rethinking what would be best for the bird. We talked about the pros and cons of releasing it back to nature versus keeping it safe in the shoebox. She checked on it again. This time when she lifted the lid, the bird was able to jump out of the shoebox, but it wasn’t able to fly. This confirmed our decision to keep the bird in the box overnight.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">We took a break to walk our dog, and when we returned, the bird had died. I found a flashlight and accompanied my daughter to the garden shed to find a shovel. She wanted to bury the robin — whom she named Fawkes — under a tree in our back yard.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">As she gently placed Fawkes in the grave and said her good-byes, I made note of how her actions on behalf of the bird were so much more effortless than the research project. Life’s best lessons don’t always come from books.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">And I hereby resolve to keep my cat indoors for the remainder of the season. You hear that, Miss Morgan?</p><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 15px;"><br /></span></div></span>Kim Evanshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03512159440778884081noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6970959869992656374.post-30814335134567279752010-04-08T08:09:00.002-04:002010-04-08T08:12:54.890-04:00‘Kids Compose!’ program magically brings student melodies to life<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjwzlOnWyEx4TiVA_sYd6RNKQXmcwx3XqGWWcP6MSFqxfnGgQaDL1uJiEF_5dBQZfy3lp4r2rY1FP95njOk_eyf3tfp3yQSAZrsxDh7VyS4O5-9xtbFo81amC97xtNOlPnOtiZGIg8tAv8/s1600/KidsCompose-winners2.jpg"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 200px; height: 150px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjwzlOnWyEx4TiVA_sYd6RNKQXmcwx3XqGWWcP6MSFqxfnGgQaDL1uJiEF_5dBQZfy3lp4r2rY1FP95njOk_eyf3tfp3yQSAZrsxDh7VyS4O5-9xtbFo81amC97xtNOlPnOtiZGIg8tAv8/s200/KidsCompose-winners2.jpg" border="0" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5457738383197464386" /></a><br /><span class="Apple-style-span" style=" ;font-family:Times;font-size:medium;"><p><i>by Kim Evans for the </i><a href="http://www.heraldtimesonline.com/"><i>Herald-Times</i></a></p><p>It’s not every day that an elementary student has the honor of hearing a melody she wrote performed by an ensemble from one of the top music schools in the nation.</p><p>But this is Bloomington, and magical things happen here, magical things such as the “Kids Compose!” program that allowed my daughter to experience this honor last week.</p><p>Kids Compose! was started here in Bloomington in 2006 by Debbi Ponella and Ruth Boshkoff, and it is a wonderful example of the university reaching out to the community in the name of music education.</p><p>Here is how it works. In the fall, elementary school children from grades two through six are invited to submit original melodies for consideration. In my daughter’s case, she collaborated with two classmates to compose a melody on the xylophone during music class. Her music teacher, Maggie Olivo, provided support and assisted the girls with notating the melody on the page.</p><p>The winning melodies were selected and given to talented IU Jacobs School of Music composition students to arrange into fully-scored compositions. My daughter’s melody was woven into an arrangement by Max Grafe, and performed by the Indiana University Concert Band, under the direction of Paul Popiel.</p><p>This concert was last Wednesday at the Musical Arts Center for an audience of MCCSC second graders. When announcer Sally Nicholson asked how many audience members were visiting the MAC for the very first time, many small hands shot into the air. I enjoyed watching smiles appear on the faces of band members as they entered the stage and looked out at their young audience. Throughout the concert, the audience members squirmed and moved in their seats but remained quiet and attentive to the performance. I was impressed at the efforts of students and teachers to maintain a respectful atmosphere for the hour-long performance.</p><p>My daughter and her good friend/musical collaborator sat patiently in anticipation of hearing their melody. After an excellent performance of symphonic repertoire, the Kids Compose! portion began. The winning composers were invited to the stage to meet their arrangers and hear how they adapted their melody into a full piece.</p><p>After the composition students briefly described the creative process behind their arrangements, the melodies for each piece were played in their original form by a solo instrumentalist. Then the full ensemble played the piece as arranged by the composition student. It was fun for my daughter to hear her melody played on the tuba, then jazzed up for the band arrangement.</p><p>I’m not sure if the significance of this experience has fully sunk in with my daughter yet. It’s easy to forget that we have a world-class music school in our back yard. I can’t count how many times my husband and I, both products of public school music programs, and in my husband’s case, a Jacobs School graduate, have sworn to attend more musical events at IU, so many of which are free.</p><p>But it is nice to know programs such as Kids Compose! exist and have managed to escape the budget cuts that are plaguing arts education. Special thanks go out to all involved in this program: Dean Gwyn Richards from the Jacobs School of Music; Ruth Boshkoff and Debbi Ponella, program coordinators; Max Grafe, IU composition student; Paul Popiel and the IU Concert Band; and Maggie Olivo, music teacher at University Elementary school.</p><div><br /></div></span>Kim Evanshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03512159440778884081noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6970959869992656374.post-24803367035162446052010-03-25T08:51:00.004-04:002010-03-25T09:04:32.838-04:00Spring Break trip renews college memories, reveals Mayan wisdom<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjc5xSAu_bE6wnKynk0fOFA3HfYq3ZzCLi-GN51f_djatDIqtzR2JBpg3wdLlWQgDTpbj5kMf5yZ0Hwp87UI9Fgpk90L4gOcKV095bqJ98Gdi_N2xGkZY_s09L58sNO99jCL0XFtWzNOuU/s1600/Cozumel_Dreamin.jpg"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 200px; height: 133px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjc5xSAu_bE6wnKynk0fOFA3HfYq3ZzCLi-GN51f_djatDIqtzR2JBpg3wdLlWQgDTpbj5kMf5yZ0Hwp87UI9Fgpk90L4gOcKV095bqJ98Gdi_N2xGkZY_s09L58sNO99jCL0XFtWzNOuU/s200/Cozumel_Dreamin.jpg" border="0" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5452556444482199474" /></a><br /><span class="Apple-style-span" style=" color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family:Arial;font-size:12px;"><p style="line-height: 15px; ">by Kim Evans for the <a href="http://www.heraldtimesonline.com/">Herald-Times</a></p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">I’m writing this column fresh from my spring break trip to Mexico. My family and I went on a cruise through the Gulf of Mexico to the Yucatan Peninsula where we visited the Mayan archaeological site of Chichen Itza and the beautiful island of Cozumel.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">This was my third trip to the Yucatan. I think it’s my favorite place in the world, and it made me reflect back over my previous trips there.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">When I was a psychology student at IU, part of my degree requirement was a “culture study” component in which I took a block of courses related to a specific culture of my choosing. The culture I chose was Mesoamerica, which included study of the Olmec, Maya and Aztec civilizations of Mexico. This is how my fascination with these cultures began.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">My favorite class was in Fine Arts, a study of Pre-Columbian art. I was captivated by the symbolism of these people. We studied stone carvings of the jaguar, feathered serpent and human forms ranging in size from colossal heads to tiny figurines carved from jade. The architecture of these civilizations was amazing as well. The 90-foot tall pyramid of Kukulkan in Chichen Itza was designed so that twice a year, on the vernal and autumnal equinoxes, the shadows and light play down the side of the pyramid to give the appearance of a serpent descending into the ground.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">Immediately after graduating, I was compelled to take a trip to Mexico to visit some of these mystic places. At age 23, it was quite a journey to take on my own. I made my home base in Cozumel. From there, I booked excursions to the ancient sites of Tulum and Chichen Itza. I recommend a trip like this to any young woman after graduating from college. It was a rite of passage for me into life after college.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">The next time I visited Cozumel was on another cruise with my parents, husband and 5-year-old daughter. We swam with the dolphins at a marine park.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">And this time our trip was more educational. Our daughter had just finished studying the Maya and Aztec cultures in her sixth grade class at University Elementary, so we thought this would be a perfect opportunity to bring her classroom learning to life.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">On the bus ride to Chichen Itza, our tour guide told us about the Mayan calendar. Of Mayan ancestory himself, he mentioned the prophecy of 2012 that Hollywood and others have depicted as a doomsday event. His take on 2012 was much different. To the extent I can recall the lesson he gave us on the Mayan number system and the sophistication with which they measured time, he simply said Dec. 21, 2012, is the date when the Mayan long count calendar ends. No fear. No freak-out. Simply the end of a cycle.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">My take on it is this: What humanity does with this transformative time is up to them. It is an ending, but it is also a beginning.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">And so I’m back home in Bloomington. The first thing I checked was my daffodil garden. They had thick buds ready to pop, but none had opened yet. Two days later, they bloomed. I was happy they waited for me to get home.</p><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 15px;"><br /></span></div></span>Kim Evanshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03512159440778884081noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6970959869992656374.post-29643063681157309202010-03-11T12:19:00.002-05:002010-03-11T12:29:23.269-05:00Spring comes to Bloomington — not a moment too soon<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj8-J8GvxdjamZ4Wnucca0BZIG8gsAMb5654sc7qNLdoDIFunm7uuTe1lwICiCX33rAR-qBcmE2jdNbQ9Zq7pp8tMmbcUHfZuejT4pL3QwwtC6vL5rO08plejhcxsVJA3mbHLtnKr2SyC0/s1600-h/daffodil+sprouts.jpg"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 190px; height: 200px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj8-J8GvxdjamZ4Wnucca0BZIG8gsAMb5654sc7qNLdoDIFunm7uuTe1lwICiCX33rAR-qBcmE2jdNbQ9Zq7pp8tMmbcUHfZuejT4pL3QwwtC6vL5rO08plejhcxsVJA3mbHLtnKr2SyC0/s200/daffodil+sprouts.jpg" border="0" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5447429607062831394" /></a><span class="Apple-style-span" style=" color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family:Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;font-size:12px;"><p style="line-height: 15px; "><em>by Kim Evans for the <a href="http://www.heraldtimesonline.com/">Herald-Times</a></em></p><p style="line-height: 15px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-style: italic; ">Last night the geese came back, </span></p><p style="line-height: 15px; "><em>slanting fast</em><br /><em>from the blossom of the rising moon down</em><br /><em>to the black pond. A muskrat</em><br /><em>swimming in the twilight saw them and hurried</em><br /><em>to the secret lodges to tell everyone</em><br /><em>spring had come.</em><br /><em>And so it had.</em><br /><em>By morning when I went out </em><br /><em>the last of the ice had disappeared, blackbirds</em><br /><em>sang on the shores. Every year</em><br /><em>the geese, returning, </em><br /><em>do this, I don’t </em><br /><em>know how.</em></p><p style="line-height: 15px; "><em>(excerpt from “Two Kinds of Deliverance” by Mary Oliver)</em></p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">This is a challenging time for a columnist. Let me rephrase that — this is a challenging time for this columnist. Why, you ask? A simple, one-word reply sums it up nicely:</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">Spring.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">This week the sun, warmer temperatures and birdsong have made it tough to concentrate on anything but the outdoors. V-formations of warbling Sandhill cranes have been flying overhead in their northerly migration. I recall seeing and hearing the cranes flying south on the day after Thanksgiving. And now they’re coming back. Those few months went fast.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">But then again, they went oh-so-slowly. It’s been a long winter.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">Like the muskrat in Mary Oliver’s poem, people are in motion, shaking off the winter dust. Driving in Bloomington has been erratic recently. In some ways, we are newborn colts eager to balance on our legs so we can run free. Traffic signals and lane markers are less important in times like this. Extra vigilance is called for when traveling through town.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">So this column isn’t about the Waldron or education cuts. My mind cannot find words about these topics, as important as they are, when my heart is enamored with the daffodils sprouting out of the ground.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">It’s simply time for a break.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">Many of us who are traveling for spring break will be thrust into a drastic change of scenery. My family of three will be traveling opposite the migration patterns, southward to a warmer climate and ocean waters. We decided a blast of summer would help us get through the last few weeks of winter.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">Those who stay home will witness more subtle changes. Trees and flowers are budding; the Earth is waking up. Not wanting to miss a minute of this transition, a part of me wishes we were staying home to watch spring come to Bloomington.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">After break, we begin to eye the end of the school year. We begin making plans for graduations, reunions, summer vacations, camps, and home improvement projects. My husband and I will begin planting our garden. I’ll plot to repaint the chairs on our front porch. We’ll rake the flower beds and seed the lawn. The birds we have been neglecting all winter will have seed in their feeders again.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">But first, we rest. We soak up the sun, visit new places. We find time to slow down and catch our breath before the rush into summer begins.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">And the daffodils will still be here when I return. I wonder if they will bloom while I’m gone.</p><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 15px;"><br /></span></div></span>Kim Evanshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03512159440778884081noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6970959869992656374.post-66531476663005040422010-02-25T07:20:00.001-05:002010-02-25T07:31:30.602-05:00<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); "><span class="sto_headline" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 21px; font-weight: bold; ">Camp songs and cold hot dogs: </span></span><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); "><span class="sto_headline" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 21px; font-weight: bold; ">Bradford Woods memories last a lifetime</span><div id="sto_content" style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; padding-top: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; border-top-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-left-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-color: initial; "><p style="line-height: 15px; ">by Kim Evans for the <a href="http://www.heraldtimesonline.com">Herald-Times</a></p><p style="line-height: 15px; "><br /></p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">"I have lost my underwear. I don't care, I'll go bare. Bye, bye long johns..."</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">1977: I learned this song (to the tune of “Bye, Bye Blackbird”) as a fifth grader at Bradford Woods. I’m sure my Arlington Elementary classmates remember our counselors teaching it to us on the first night of camp in the dining hall after dinner.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">“Oh, they were so dear to me, tickle me, hee, hee, hee. Bye, bye long johns ...”</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">We also learned how to square dance and tap maple trees for syrup. During crafts, I personalized a leather bracelet by pounding my name into it with a mallet and metal letters. I wore my hair in a bandana all week. My group had to stay in one of the old cabins, while the lucky ones got the new cabins with reading lights built in to each bunk. My friend showed me a letter she was writing to her best friend in Ohio. I wrote to my family. I treasured one whole week of adventures in the woods, snoozing in my Campbell’s Soup sleeping bag each night.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">“Oh how I miss that trap door there behind me .”</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">1984: Fast forward to my senior year of high school, when I had the opportunity to return to Bradford Woods as a counselor. After meeting the girls in our cabin, I wondered if I was this small, curious and excited only seven years ago. One of the privileges of being a counselor was getting to stay up late with a teacher and listen to the IU vs. North Carolina basketball game on the radio. Not wanting to wake the girls, we stifled our cheers as IU won the game and advanced to the next round of the NCAA tournament.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">“If you see them you’ll know where to find me .”</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">2008: Fast forward again. Now, I help my daughter roll up the old Campbell’s Soup sleeping bag, which I’ve saved for this very occasion. I deliver her to the gymnasium at University Elementary, where she learns of her cabin-mates and meets her counselors. Even though the Bradford Woods program has been cut to two nights only, it’s hard for me to let her go. She’s done sleepovers before, but this fifth grade camp thing feels more like a rite of passage.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">“I have lost my underwear. I don’t care, I’ll go bare .”</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">Two days later, I hear joyful laughter from the buses as they return and pull up to the curb in front of the school. I wade through the sea of luggage and parents reuniting with children to find my daughter, stepping off her bus as happy as I’ve ever seen her, singing a new song she learned at camp.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">She’s full of stories about how they got drenched by a surprise rainstorm on their first night, eating cold hot dogs on the hiking trail because the fire wouldn’t start, learning archery and having to get out of bed at 5:30 a.m. to raise the flag.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">“Long johns, bye-bye.”</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">1977: After our last meal, we heard a commotion outside the doors of the dining hall. Our craziest counselor came running in, waving a pair of underwear on a branch. His underwear was found. Laughter erupted, followed by wild cheers and a memory was sealed in my mind forever.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">And now this unique program is on the cutting room floor. I hope our community will support a referendum or another funding source can be found to save the Bradford Woods experience for future generations.</p><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 15px;"><br /></span></div></div></span></div>Kim Evanshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03512159440778884081noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6970959869992656374.post-24104287963967097342010-02-11T09:24:00.001-05:002010-02-11T09:27:08.384-05:00Winter storms shift life to an interesting state of suspension<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); "><p style="line-height: 15px; ">by Kim Evans for the <a href="http://www.heraldtimesonline.com/">Herald Times</a>, Bloomington, IN</p><p style="line-height: 15px; "><br /></p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">It’s Monday night. Snow’s in the forecast again.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">Tomorrow morning I’ll be listening to the radio as they run through their list of school closings. Bartholomew...Bedford/North Lawrence...Brown County...Eastern Greene...Richland-Bean Blossom...Martinsville... and ... and ... time stands still...will they say Monroe County schools?</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">If they do, the decades-old snow-day-butterflies-of-joy will resurrect in my stomach and flutter a happy dance once more. When I was a kid, MCCSC was always the last to declare a snow day.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">As a self-employed mother of a sixth-grader, I have the benefit of flexing my hours when needed, which means a snow day offers the opportunity for a slower morning pace, more time under the warm covers, and the opportunity to reminisce about winters past.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">I was a sixth-grader when one of Mother Nature’s biggest snowstorms, the Blizzard of ’78, moved through Indiana.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">This was an exciting storm. My family and I huddled around the news broadcast on the small black and white television in our kitchen. A little “Blizzard Warning” box was a constant reminder in the corner of the TV screen. I was enthralled. I never wanted that little blizzard box to leave.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">Campus was shut down, so my parents got to stay home from work. They joined my brother and me for a marathon session of Monopoly on the card table in the living room. We kept the game going for the duration of the blizzard, taking breaks only for meals, sleep, to check the weather report, or to gaze out the window. I think each of us bounced back from bankruptcy at least once, borrowing Monopoly money from one another to get through the rough patches.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">It was a sad transition for me when the storm finally passed through our part of the country and the news station removed the blizzard warning box. But the next phase of discovery was about to begin. We ventured outdoors to explore the pristine Arctic landscape left behind.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">Getting the door open was our first challenge. A snow drift reached halfway up the door. Once we dug out, it took several hours just to shovel the sidewalk, resulting in snow banks up to my shoulders on either side. The wind had sculpted interesting curves and drifts in the snow around our house and trees. My brother and I couldn’t resist jumping into a drift by the house that reached over our heads!</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">Our house sat a quarter mile from the highway, and with pioneer-like determination, we trudged our way to the road to survey the scene. We finally arrived, only to discover the highway was no longer discernable. I remember the odd sensation of playing in the road, eerily silent, without a care of traffic.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">Eventually the roads were cleared and life slowly resumed its normal pace. The string of snow days had reached a total of nine, and returning to school was like returning from a long vacation break. Teachers sent home thick “snow packets” filled with make-up schoolwork. It was time to shake the snow out of our heads and get our minds working again.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">We now fast-forward up to 2010. By the time this column makes it to print, we’ll know if the 5 to 8 inches that was forecasted actually made it to the ground. For now, life is in a temporary state of suspension; a nice break from the normal routine.</p><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 15px;"><br /></span></div></span>Kim Evanshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03512159440778884081noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6970959869992656374.post-59545234316926021692010-01-14T10:26:00.004-05:002010-01-14T10:39:22.446-05:00Bloomington loves the Waldron, but do we trust the BAAC?<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiVTdSxpSHzA6GF3W8W1kNmzBY6-ospKJ9MXydW4LS4PVwoINg8lz2C9MyP3fUk_CzsIx1nVRTHZ5Z30JsPL-C3HHOkOY97XFMqxmbOQQnlaW5VgMoROEy1YRV5VzMalEi9DJzJTCrLR3w/s1600-h/800px-Waldron-Arts-Center-20060716.jpg"><img style="float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 200px; height: 150px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiVTdSxpSHzA6GF3W8W1kNmzBY6-ospKJ9MXydW4LS4PVwoINg8lz2C9MyP3fUk_CzsIx1nVRTHZ5Z30JsPL-C3HHOkOY97XFMqxmbOQQnlaW5VgMoROEy1YRV5VzMalEi9DJzJTCrLR3w/s200/800px-Waldron-Arts-Center-20060716.jpg" border="0" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5426619470010455122" /></a><span class="Apple-style-span" style=" color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family:Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;font-size:12px;"><p style="line-height: 15px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:Georgia, serif;font-size:130%;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style=" line-height: normal;font-size:16px;">By Kim Evans</span></span></p><p style="line-height: 15px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:Georgia, serif;font-size:130%;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style=" line-height: normal;font-size:16px;"></span></span><a href="http://www.heraldtimesonline.com">The Herald-Times</a>, Bloomington, IN</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">OK. The cat’s out of the bag. The Bloomington Area Arts Council has been operating on a deficit averaging $183,000 for the past six years.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">It’s strange how this has been kept relatively quiet, until the latter part of 2009 at least, when the red flags began flying as the arts council suddenly announced a drastic increase to rental rates for performance spaces at the Waldron Arts Center.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">And now we have the sudden announcement that $120,000 must be raised by March 1 or the Waldron’s doors will close.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">One thing that can be surmised with certainty is the current BAAC is great at making big, jarring, sudden announcements with regards to finances. As a result, they have created a public relations nightmare.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">The people of Bloomington may be hard-pressed to find anyone who is willing to step forward and help bail out an organization that has failed to maintain consistent leadership, adequately manage the Waldron or make efforts to forge good relations and transparency with the people and arts groups it serves.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">The current BAAC board members insist they inherited the management troubles. In their recent seven-page press release, they reveal that they have been doing some homework and have mapped out a viable action plan. They are correct in their statement that “.it is therefore essential that opportunities to generate more income from building sources are leveraged at the same time the fundraising activities are pursued.” But do we trust this particular organization to follow through on this mission, while maintaining good will with the public? At this point I would say no, unless some serious bridge-building takes place. Fast.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">Arts and business make strange bedfellows. It’s in our biology: Creativity and analytics reside in opposite sides of the brain. This separation is precisely what is being played out in this scenario. And the creative side — in our culture, anyway — is undervalued, which leads to a perceived imbalance of power.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">Perhaps this imbalance is what led the BAAC to feel justified in laying the hammer down on the arts community, only offering an explanation in hindsight. And perhaps this imbalance is why the realities of the finances have been swept under the rug for so long (“it’s just for those crazy artists, anyway .”).</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">We are definitely in a new era of accountability.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">It does makes sense that the rates for arts education and space rental at the Waldron need to be raised. It also makes sense that some serious fundraising efforts need to occur — pronto — so that patrons don’t have to completely foot the bill.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">People do need to realize that the city subsidization of the building ended when they gifted it to the BAAC. The space needs to be self-sustaining. And it is not cheap to deliver arts education and services. I know this from my own experience in shared leadership of an emerging writing program in our community.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">Whatever entity ends up managing the Waldron after March 1 needs to understand how crucial it is to develop and maintain solid relationships with the public. If this occurs, my sense is that while people may not be eating out of the palm of the organization’s hand, they will make an effort to understand and do their part in sustaining the gem we know as the Waldron.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">And I won’t even enter into the debate about the necessity of the arts in society. They are necessary. Period.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; "><br /></p><p style="line-height: 15px; "><i>Kim Evans is a Bloomington native and IU graduate who moved back to Bloomington in 2005 to open her graphic design studio, raise her family and circle back to her writing. She can be reached at kimevans_columnist@att.net .</i></p></span>Kim Evanshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03512159440778884081noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6970959869992656374.post-41138095263111074842009-12-31T15:10:00.004-05:002009-12-31T15:21:45.797-05:00A look back over the past decade brings wisdom for the future<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEirhuckToGsUXasiqxNSfHd5VNZTohrGmILdP5KFVcoInEoZkXIypMpfmzVSLyd2qZOUF0nSOIqBCGptZq0ARL6fRe6nYqvkhp5pjrQHmmI0CgFqhvD7zwmp8NWoypw47HzhNWQE7BRumc/s1600-h/Grand+Canyon1.jpg"><img style="float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 200px; height: 163px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEirhuckToGsUXasiqxNSfHd5VNZTohrGmILdP5KFVcoInEoZkXIypMpfmzVSLyd2qZOUF0nSOIqBCGptZq0ARL6fRe6nYqvkhp5pjrQHmmI0CgFqhvD7zwmp8NWoypw47HzhNWQE7BRumc/s200/Grand+Canyon1.jpg" border="0" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5421497935914142178" /></a>By Kim Evans<br />From the <a href="http://heraldtimesonline.com/">Herald-Times</a>, December 31, 2009<br /><br />Today, we find ourselves on the cusp of a new year and a new decade, a significant time to write a column. This calls for another visit with The Fortune Teller.<br /><br />Her parlor smells of lavender and mint. The curtains are pulled over the windows for now, so we can focus on the task at hand. She gently places her crystal ball on the table. She is glad to be back, eager to reveal messages that may be helpful at this time.<br /><br />“What is your question?” she asks.<br /><br />I think for a moment, then say, “what do my readers and I need to know as we enter this new decade?”<br /><br />She nods and centers herself, then begins moving her hands over the mysterious orb. I notice a new ring on her hand. She winks. A gift from a loved one.<br /><br />The fog inside the crystal ball begins to clear, revealing a scene from Australia’s Sydney Harbor. I recognize this scene: the millennium celebration on New Year’s Eve, 1999. A gigantic smiling face on the Harbor Bridge, lit up, winking beneath fireworks shooting endlessly into the night sky.<br /><br />“This decade began with a peculiar mix of hope and fear,” she says. “We were full of hope with the coming of the new millennium, yet we were so afraid of the unknown, embodied in the Y2K scare, which never materialized.”<br /><br />Sydney and the fireworks fade away, and a new scene is revealed from beneath the Fortune Teller’s hands. Under a bright blue sky over Manhattan, the airplane crashes into one of the World Trade Center towers.<br /><br />“This is how our fear was manifested,” she says. “In the absence of solid leadership, our nation spent the next seven years scrambling and fumbling in the shock waves.”<br /><br />She cups her hands around the ball again. The scene changes to the mall in Washington, D.C., on a frigid day, filled with masses of people. Barack Obama stands at the podium, preparing to give his inauguration speech.<br /><br />“Here is where hope made its return,” she says. “The final year of this decade began with a similar mixture of hope and fear as did the decade as a whole.”<br /><br />The Fortune Teller relates this to her own life. She sadly recalls a recent gathering in which a family member turned her back on her because of their differing political beliefs. This had never happened before. In spite of differences, politics had never caused a rift like this in her family.<br /><br />She redirects her attention back to the crystal ball as it reveals a final scene. The Grand Canyon, seen from above in all its vastness. A beautiful, undeniable split in the earth. We pan right down into the split, revealing layers of complexity on either side.<br /><br />“There is wisdom in this complexity,” says the Fortune Teller. “We are living the split right now. Rather than fighting it and feeling hostile toward the other side, we need to explore its complexity. Difference can be seen as a gift. We need to put our fear aside and seek understanding. I challenge you to go to the person most different from you and begin a conversation.”<br /><br />I notice my resistance to this challenge. To be honest, I’d prefer to wait for the “other side” to approach me first. This is something to think about.<br /><br />I thank the Fortune Teller for her messages and weave them into my intentions for the coming year.Kim Evanshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03512159440778884081noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6970959869992656374.post-21101479874889549022009-12-17T09:34:00.001-05:002009-12-17T09:38:54.227-05:00Seasonal rituals and objects transcend the moment, open the heart<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiJG8lGNH-k10E8gvsu2QHDBgB9n9W281rnhqAKn-nqI207tfhGAcS1hJH1SMNx8O43VwKsOHoSgpoVSWQHpCJ6IupVh1GJfKR32TT3MfQCZyxlBZBz-tgggzmWNHojkSyRF3xbg9dvHFE/s1600-h/GodsEye.jpg"><img style="float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 240px; height: 320px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiJG8lGNH-k10E8gvsu2QHDBgB9n9W281rnhqAKn-nqI207tfhGAcS1hJH1SMNx8O43VwKsOHoSgpoVSWQHpCJ6IupVh1GJfKR32TT3MfQCZyxlBZBz-tgggzmWNHojkSyRF3xbg9dvHFE/s320/GodsEye.jpg" border="0" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5416214467953151906" /></a><p class="BasicParagraph" style="margin-bottom:9.0pt;mso-hyphenate:none"><span class="Apple-style-span" style=" font-weight: bold; line-height: 20px; font-size:17px;">By Kim Evans</span></p> <p class="BasicParagraph" style="margin-bottom:9.0pt;mso-hyphenate:none"><span style="line-height:120%;font-size:13.0pt;">As I sit nestled on my living room sofa, I glance at our Christmas tree and think about how every tree tells a story. <o:p></o:p></span></p> <p class="BasicParagraph" style="margin-bottom:9.0pt;mso-hyphenate:none"><span style="line-height:120%;font-size:13.0pt;">We cut this tree on our annual pilgrimage to Fowler’s Tree Farm, where we have found our tree almost every year since I was a girl. Each time I set foot on this particular piece of land, I remember myself at age 8 in my orange flowered coat with the fur-lined hood, hiking on the hill that overlooked many magical acres of Christmas trees in their natural form.<o:p></o:p></span></p> <p class="BasicParagraph" style="margin-bottom:9.0pt;mso-hyphenate:none"><span style="line-height:120%;font-size:13.0pt;">Early in our marriage, my husband and I were opposed to the idea of killing a tree just for use as a decoration in our home. So we went to the tree farm and pulled what I recall was a large branch off a brush pile. The proprietor let us take that one home for free. The following year, I came to the conclusion that Christmas trees on a farm were planted with the intention of being cut, therefore I wasn’t violating any laws of nature. I am glad I allowed myself that process, because it’s no good kicking off the holiday season with a sense of guilt.<o:p></o:p></span></p> <p class="BasicParagraph" style="margin-bottom:9.0pt;mso-hyphenate:none"><span style="line-height:120%;font-size:13.0pt;">Last weekend we joined my mom and dad and went to Fowler’s again. I was sad to learn that owner Harry Fowler had passed away earlier in the year at the age of 93. With this reminder of how quickly time passes, I wonder if my daughter will continue enjoying the tradition of visiting the tree farm as she grows into her teen years. So far I see no signs of her enthusiasm waning, and I value the significance of the shared experience with her grandparents – a special bridge between three generations. <o:p></o:p></span></p> <p class="BasicParagraph" style="margin-bottom:9.0pt;mso-hyphenate:none"><span style="line-height:120%;font-size:13.0pt;">I look at our tree again, now decorated and glittering with lights. I could write an entire story about the ornaments alone. There’s the God’s eye I made in kindergarten, a simple decoration formed by criss-crossing two twigs with yarn woven around in a diamond pattern, forming a bright orange “eye” at the center. There’s also the pine cone I spray-painted and sprinkled with glitter that same year. I’m so glad my mom saved these treasures for me. <o:p></o:p></span></p> <p class="BasicParagraph" style="margin-bottom:9.0pt;mso-hyphenate:none"><span style="line-height:120%;font-size:13.0pt;">I see the white star from Olivia’s first year in preschool, colored by her small hand with blue marker and garnished with gold glitter. <o:p></o:p></span></p> <p class="BasicParagraph" style="margin-bottom:9.0pt;mso-hyphenate:none"><span style="line-height:120%;font-size:13.0pt;">I see the small scroll of sheet music for “Silent Night” hanging from a low branch, a gift from one of my husband’s students during his band directing years.<o:p></o:p></span></p> <p class="BasicParagraph" style="margin-bottom:9.0pt;mso-hyphenate:none"><span style="line-height:120%;font-size:13.0pt;">My favorite ornaments are the ceramic Rudolph, Clarice, and King Moonracer purchased in 1999 at the Morgantown IGA. Each year I pull these boxes out of our ornament bin, slightly more tattered than the year before, I remember our home in Morgantown and the transitional years we spent there.<o:p></o:p></span></p> <p class="BasicParagraph" style="margin-bottom:9.0pt;mso-hyphenate:none"><span style="line-height:120%;font-size:13.0pt;">Seasonal rituals and objects contain keys to our history, and holding them opens up a part of our heart that transcends the moment. This is a real piece of magic, a wonderful gift, if we slow down enough to notice. <o:p></o:p></span></p> <!--EndFragment-->Kim Evanshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03512159440778884081noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6970959869992656374.post-58004328659343722762009-12-03T08:12:00.009-05:002009-12-03T08:36:34.320-05:00Communication needed to find affordable rates for Waldron Arts Center<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjeJkiKmvvJwqIpgRO08hh5K5lY-Rs3UV4FEKaCADax_fmGJKnmM1H64z_NGod_GHncTWuMe2Yi3eWipNnOZrnkplarZZ_YoiTFRsDrnRoM1GWvtjKk43AHGg5iLWlTy9ugKh3qPy_A_rs/s1600-h/crystal-ball.jpg"><img style="float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 320px; height: 212px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjeJkiKmvvJwqIpgRO08hh5K5lY-Rs3UV4FEKaCADax_fmGJKnmM1H64z_NGod_GHncTWuMe2Yi3eWipNnOZrnkplarZZ_YoiTFRsDrnRoM1GWvtjKk43AHGg5iLWlTy9ugKh3qPy_A_rs/s320/crystal-ball.jpg" border="0" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5411003187566888178" /></a><br /><span class="Apple-style-span" style=" ;font-family:Times;font-size:medium;"><h2 style="padding-top: 6px; padding-right: 6px; padding-bottom: 6px; padding-left: 6px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:Georgia, serif;font-size:130%;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style=" font-weight: normal;font-size:16px;"><br /></span></span></h2><h2 style="padding-top: 6px; padding-right: 6px; padding-bottom: 6px; padding-left: 6px; "><br /></h2><h2 style="padding-top: 6px; padding-right: 6px; padding-bottom: 6px; padding-left: 6px; "><br /></h2><h2 style="padding-top: 6px; padding-right: 6px; padding-bottom: 6px; padding-left: 6px; "><br /></h2><h2 style="padding-top: 6px; padding-right: 6px; padding-bottom: 6px; padding-left: 6px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-weight: normal; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;">By Kim Evans</span></span></h2><div style="margin-top: 16px; margin-bottom: 16px; padding-top: 4px; padding-right: 4px; padding-bottom: 4px; padding-left: 4px; border-top-width: 2px; border-top-style: dotted; border-top-color: rgb(204, 204, 204); border-bottom-width: 2px; border-bottom-style: dotted; border-bottom-color: rgb(204, 204, 204); width: 480px; "><span>December 3, 2009 <span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space:pre"> </span>The <a href="http://www.heraldtimesonline.com/">Herald-Times</a>, Bloomington, IN</span></div><p>Maybe I’m clairvoyant.</p><p>A few nights ago, I dreamt of jumping from a very high place into a body of water. I was airborne for quite awhile, which gave me plenty of time to wonder how much it was going to hurt once I hit the water.</p><p>The very next day, I took my daughter to see a movie with a scene eerily similar to my dream, shown from the perspective of the lead character as she dove off a high cliff into the waters of the Pacific Northwest.</p><p>So let’s entertain the idea that I am clairvoyant, a fortune-teller who sees past, present and future.</p><p>This fortune-teller now places her crystal ball on the table. She moves her hands over the ball in circular motion. A mist forms inside. She is transported back to 1993, the date of her wedding. The setting is the John Waldron Arts Center. Hers is one of the first weddings to be held in this space after its renovation. Show tunes from “West Side Story” are played by a brass band as the guests are seated. She walks down the aisle and stands at the altar facing her husband to be.</p><p>Afterwards, the happy bride and groom descend the stairwell and make their way through the joyous crowd to the limo waiting outside on Walnut Street.</p><p>The scene fades out as a new vision emerges within the crystal ball. It is 2006, and there is an 8-year-old girl in costume performing on the very same stage where her parents were married 13 years earlier. The fortune teller unmistakably recognizes this is her daughter portraying Chip, the teacup in the musical “Beauty and the Beast,” a performance by a local children’s theater group. The fortune teller sees herself and her husband watching the performance, caught up in the pride and synchronicity of the moment.</p><p>Next, the crystal ball reveals a more recent scene where the fortune teller sees herself again enjoying a performance at the Waldron Auditorium, a night out with friends at Cardinal Stage Company’s performance of “Boom.” The stage design is perfect for the space, the acting is superb, and she is reminded why she loves Bloomington so much.</p><p>She prompts her crystal ball for more visions. The mist once again swirls and reveals a scene in which someone is throwing many years’ worth of theater costumes into a dumpster. Conference tables and chairs fill the space left empty by the removal of the costumes. Bloomington Area Arts Council leaders are scratching their heads over financial spreadsheets. Headlines in The Herald-Times reveal that the BAAC have raised their rates well beyond the point of affordability for our local performing arts groups, therefore cutting them out of their very own market.</p><p>The fortune-teller is anxious now as she feels the opportunity for more fond memories at this local theater venue fading away. In a panic, she asks the crystal ball for one more vision, one of the future that shows how this situation will be resolved.</p><p>The mist swirls and swirls, and finally, a scene is revealed. The BAAC leaders, realizing they have acted rashly out of a sense of panic about finances, extend an invitation into meaningful communication with the very groups who have a vested history and interest in the Waldron’s performing arts venues.</p><p>Through a series of meetings, a win-win situation emerges. The fortune-teller is relieved that fairness prevailed.</p><p><em>Kim Evans is a Bloomington native and IU graduate who moved back to Bloomington in 2005 to open her graphic design studio, raise her family and circle back to her writing. She can be reached at kimevans_columnist@att.net.</em><br /></p><p><i><br /></i></p></span>Kim Evanshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03512159440778884081noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6970959869992656374.post-664928369712183692009-11-19T07:27:00.001-05:002009-11-19T07:29:42.235-05:00Mixed messages abound for our dual purpose, multi-tasking girlfriends<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-size: 12px; "><div id="sto-creditbox" style="margin-top: 16px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; padding-top: 4px; padding-right: 4px; padding-bottom: 4px; padding-left: 4px; border-top-width: 2px; border-right-width: 0px; border-bottom-width: 2px; border-left-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-color: initial; border-top-style: dotted; border-top-color: rgb(204, 204, 204); border-bottom-style: dotted; border-bottom-color: rgb(204, 204, 204); "><span class="sto_byline" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; font-weight: bold; float: left; ">By Kim Evans </span></div><div id="sto_content" style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; padding-top: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; border-top-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-left-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-color: initial; "><p style="line-height: 15px; ">A couple of weeks ago, while walking through the mall with my daughter, I passed the window ads for the latest Victoria’s Secret push-up bra. Irritated by the message these ads send my daughter who is on the cusp of adolescence, I found myself wondering just how important it is to “Be a Bombshell.”</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">Do women really want or need to be an overwhelming surprise? As in, “oops, I’m so sorry I knocked you over with the force of my super-sized, pushed-up breasts.”</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">Conversely, do we really want to engage in the use of smoke-and-mirrors, which sets the stage for disillusionment as soon as the bra hits the floor?</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">And I find the parallel between physical attractiveness and a military weapon very strange.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">It’s all an illusion.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">Then, last week, I read a friend’s post on Facebook about her recent experience as a passenger on a flight where she was asked to cover up while nursing her baby (her story was highlighted in<a href="http://www.heraldtimesonline.com/stories/2009/11/15/news.qp-8211391.sto" target="_blank" style="text-decoration: none; color: rgb(17, 68, 119); "> Dann Denny’s article</a> on Nov. 15). My thoughts immediately went back to the Victoria’s Secret ads.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">We’ve heard this debate before, but once again, I find myself wondering why the sexual display of breasts is more socially acceptable than the natural, biological one.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">Despite popular belief, breasts do have a function beyond sensuality, a function that provides optimal nutrition and nurturing to babies. Dual purpose, multi-tasking girlfriends, they are indeed. And there’s nothing more real, more down-to-earth, more lacking in illusion, than nursing.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">I am a modest person. Because of this, nursing in public took me to the edge of my comfort zone. When my daughter was 4 months old, I was in the bridal party for my brother’s wedding. I made the mistake of buying a gown that was not nursing-friendly. As a result, I spent a large part of the reception in the women’s restroom, undressed from the waist up, nursing my hungry, over-stimulated baby.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">On another occasion, I was in the stands at a high school marching band competition, sitting with my mother, baby in arms. When my daughter needed to nurse, Mom, in an effort to be helpful, pulled a baby blanket out of the diaper bag and inadvertently made a huge production draping it over me, which was probably more distracting than simply nursing discretely would have been. And to top it off, my daughter kicked the blanket off within minutes.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">In spite of these challenges, I persisted.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">Everyone is entitled to their personal opinion and comfort level. But I wish people would try to be more understanding. I’ve written before about the balancing act women find themselves in. Women don’t nurse in public to make a point or be exhibitionist. They need to take care of their children.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">I applaud local restaurants for welcoming customers of all ages, and I hope people will not boycott Bloomington’s “breastaurants” because they fear these establishments are full of topless women wandering the aisles with a baby hanging off each breast.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">Have faith. Have tolerance. Most people abide by table manners in public. Breastfeeding can be done with table manners in mind. As the popular commercial says, “ya gotta eat,” and that means nursing babies, too.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">I’d rather my daughter see a mother nursing her baby in public than those ridiculous posters in the mall. Perhaps if there weren’t such a stigma attached to breastfeeding, more women would choose to nurse, and our culture’s obsession with breasts would subside. Then our girlfriends could enjoy a happy return to their natural function and size.</p><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 15px;"><br /></span></div></div></span>Kim Evanshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03512159440778884081noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6970959869992656374.post-43289747725859036862009-11-05T08:22:00.001-05:002009-11-05T08:31:46.789-05:00“This Is It” a riveting documentary of Jackson’s gifts and legacy<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjIM8Qab1oI60hGnxij4SMbXmNiDuv1c_BdvJdsXlZxoSGGCmBqGSXRcR8IkQw1jUAAGxvxU9P0q9UNjrgtHHJuO2gIJT_l-2_JA1cjVNM6DYevM6BGiSqa7CD5d4Yw4-MaGhsnAOdo6G8/s1600-h/michael-jackson-billie-jean.jpg"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 150px; height: 200px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjIM8Qab1oI60hGnxij4SMbXmNiDuv1c_BdvJdsXlZxoSGGCmBqGSXRcR8IkQw1jUAAGxvxU9P0q9UNjrgtHHJuO2gIJT_l-2_JA1cjVNM6DYevM6BGiSqa7CD5d4Yw4-MaGhsnAOdo6G8/s200/michael-jackson-billie-jean.jpg" border="0" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5400611598959187762" /></a><br /><span class="Apple-style-span" style=" color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family:Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;font-size:12px;"><div id="sto-creditbox" style="margin-top: 16px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; padding-top: 4px; padding-right: 4px; padding-bottom: 4px; padding-left: 4px; border-top-width: 2px; border-right-width: 0px; border-bottom-width: 2px; border-left-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-color: initial; border-top-style: dotted; border-top-color: rgb(204, 204, 204); border-bottom-style: dotted; border-bottom-color: rgb(204, 204, 204); "><span class="sto_byline" style=" font-weight: bold; float: left; font-family:Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;font-size:12px;">By Kim Evans</span><span class="sto_date" style=" color: rgb(85, 85, 85); line-height: 19px; font-family:Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;font-size:11px;"><br />November 5, 2009</span></div> <div id="sto_content" style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; padding-top: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; border-top-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-left-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-color: initial; "><p style="line-height: 15px; ">I am fascinated by the link between music and memory. Isn’t it amazing how a certain song or melody can transport you back to a pinpointed moment in your personal history? When you think about it, each of our lives has a soundtrack.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">In the 1980s, with the debut of the MTV sensation, the dynamic pairing of music and video entered the scene. Michael Jackson’s “Billie Jean” is one song that stands out to me: the bass line slinking in to set the tone, the syncopated keyboard hits, MJ’s pulsing vocals and the squares in the pavement that lit up as he stepped on them. This memory takes me to Campus Casino, a high school hangout on Kirkwood in the ’80s. This was a fun place for teenagers, full of arcade games, a pizza parlor and a huge video screen where music videos flickered throughout the evening.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">So many Michael Jackson songs project onto the movie screen of my high school years. I remember the feel of the living room rug underneath me as I sat on the floor, watching the debut of the Thriller video.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">That’s why I bought advance tickets to see “This Is It.” This documentary film features two hours of footage recorded during rehearsals for the already sold-out Michael Jackson concerts that would have taken place in London this past summer. The footage was originally intended for Jackson’s personal library rather than the general public. But as the tragic end of his life unfolded, the documentary suddenly became viable as the public’s last glimpse of Jackson’s work.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">I found the movie riveting, not only because I am dazzled by Michael Jackson’s talent and the rhythms of his music, but also because it was an intimate look at how he worked on his art. His personal life may have been a shambles, but the man had laser focus and was able to balance this intensity with nothing but love and kindness toward the musicians, dancers, producers, and crew with whom he collaborated.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">Jackson’s work ethic was nothing short of inspiring. It was as if he were performing for a sold-out concert arena every time he stepped on the rehearsal stage, even though his audience was a mere dozen or so of his backup dancers and crew. He’d apologize to his team if he occasionally needed to back off the vocals to save his voice.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">I was touched by the tenderness with which Kenny Ortega, creative partner and director, worked with him. In one poignant scene, he urges Michael to hold on to the handrails during his first test run on the cherry picker that would carry him out over the audience. It was as if Ortega knew how fragile Michael was. I found myself wishing Ortega had been this father figure for Michael when he was a child.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">I cringed over the years as Jackson’s face made its very public transfiguration into what looked like a mask. But he took off his mask in order to perform. The man we saw on stage was the true essence of Michael Jackson. The stage was the venue where he was his best self. I am thankful for the contribution Jackson made to the movie screen and soundtrack of my life.</p></div></span>Kim Evanshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03512159440778884081noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6970959869992656374.post-18870745505240554552009-10-22T08:39:00.004-04:002009-10-22T08:52:38.192-04:00A glimpse into one woman’s never-ending mental checklist<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhCZmO3zOEbhZmsIj5dCgjF5q1BpJ-NxS0XZDI-nx4_SlOWSYiffmwyb8kL05Uy6xV22reEjxfzQPb3caxRqvfdQxcBg6ZfHQwEPI-I9SR0iQSvn7JwFIN7QdNjgu1mTWFAUGBQDB1hyphenhyphen3E/s1600-h/Freakout.jpg"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 200px; height: 150px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhCZmO3zOEbhZmsIj5dCgjF5q1BpJ-NxS0XZDI-nx4_SlOWSYiffmwyb8kL05Uy6xV22reEjxfzQPb3caxRqvfdQxcBg6ZfHQwEPI-I9SR0iQSvn7JwFIN7QdNjgu1mTWFAUGBQDB1hyphenhyphen3E/s200/Freakout.jpg" border="0" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5395406211103736034" /></a><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg3HLRTqQStfadUZKEimsAL42jsqj9cBkJ2WDB5kLC_0cEi-1xdKl4vmEcGKqHbPAYXZfuux0Ch1Oz1Daa0VEz6sdnOO5hejxwnJ4Yseqf66cbLXCfq7c3bRafbaYYMwCgVIuBWvptONM8/s1600-h/Freakout.jpg"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-decorations-in-effect: none; font-weight: bold; line-height: 24px; ">By Kim Evans</span><br /></a><p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:12.0pt;line-height:150%"><b>for The <a href="http://www.heraldtimesonline.com/index.php">Herald-Times</a>, </b></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:12.0pt;line-height:150%"><b>October 22, 2009</b></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:12.0pt;line-height:150%">The Oct. 26 issue of Time Magazine features a poll that reveals the staggering but not surprising result that while women now comprise 50 percent of the U.S. workforce, they report feeling less happy than they did in 1972. </p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:12.0pt;line-height:150%">From my perspective, the root of the unhappiness is this: in our climb to prominence in the working world, most women have not given up their role as homemaker; they’ve merely added professional work on top of it. </p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:12.0pt;line-height:150%">By my calculation, that’s two full-time jobs.</p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:12.0pt;line-height:150%">Men try to help with housework. I know they do. But I’m convinced their brains are not wired to multi-task like ours are. Allow me to introduce the Never-Ending Mental Checklist. Mine looks something like this:</p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:12.0pt;line-height:150%">Don’t forget to make sure the gecko’s water dish is full; you don’t want it to die of dehydration and make your daughter sad; help the 13-year old dog down the stairs, encourage her to go outside to do her business WHILE fixing breakfast and packing lunch for your daughter AND making sure she has all her homework, permission slips, and school materials packed and ready to go, KEEPING IN MIND the bills that need to be paid and the bank run that MUST BE DONE before the automated mortgage payment overdraws the checking account WHILE confirming with your mother that yes, it would be WONDERFUL if she could visit with your daughter after school, but FIRST let me check the calendar to make sure there aren’t scheduling conflicts because there MIGHT be a soccer make-up game tonight, or there might be horseback riding, or a school event, and there’s ALWAYS the required amount of time each evening for homework with extra help on math because no one in our family truly GETS this Everyday Math stuff, so not only do I need to help my daughter, I need to teach it to MYSELF first lest I show her the wrong way, causing her to do poorly on her ISTEP test and – HELLO – the cat just knocked the brownies on the floor and OH YEAH I wanted to print out a piece of writing for class today AND will I have time to take a shower before I go; I want to be fresh because I’d better drum up more freelance work, so gear up to sell, sell, sell, THEN later that evening, Dear Husband agrees to cook dinner while you write your newspaper column but you feel compelled to remind him to butter BOTH sides of the bread before he grills the sandwiches AND you are fully aware that soup and sandwiches are the last meal in the fridge before another grocery run is needed and WOW that new Kroger is humongous and where did I put those coupons THEN consider one more time HOW you can fit some exercise into your schedule and think SERIOUSLY are you really going to have time to MAKE all those Christmas gifts and WOW what a beautiful Fall evening it finally is, when are we going to find time to take a family hike, much less get our pumpkins and where DID the days go when we rode a hay wagon to the pumpkin patch and took photos of our little girl like your friend just posted on her Facebook page, which reminds you to update your status so your friends don’t think you’ve withered away, but haven’t you done just that? </p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:12.0pt;line-height:150%">Calgon, take me back to 1972. (Did I just say that?)</p> <!--EndFragment-->Kim Evanshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03512159440778884081noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6970959869992656374.post-33406891921438869982009-10-16T13:29:00.009-04:002009-10-16T13:50:43.461-04:00"Exceeding Expectations" Exhibit<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhFQfzYY-uitsmOCvhNI-cl_3lCcwlQBaYtzSkBN_WN_sVi1LK59_ldWeQG50cjBRLOTxDWepSDzxKywbwKKgxNR6knCsXz10K349Rrusse5gdWvvqRa5oLv3NbgrKsGK8BwryjzZ2f_Co/s1600-h/Exceeding.jpg"><img style="float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 204px; height: 320px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhFQfzYY-uitsmOCvhNI-cl_3lCcwlQBaYtzSkBN_WN_sVi1LK59_ldWeQG50cjBRLOTxDWepSDzxKywbwKKgxNR6knCsXz10K349Rrusse5gdWvvqRa5oLv3NbgrKsGK8BwryjzZ2f_Co/s320/Exceeding.jpg" border="0" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5393251471111624754" /></a><p style="margin-top: 0px; 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"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana, serif;"><b><br /></b></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 9.5px/normal Eurostile; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana, serif;"><b><br /></b></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 9.5px/normal Eurostile; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana, serif;"><b><br /></b></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 9.5px/normal Eurostile; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana, serif;"><b><br /></b></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 9.5px/normal Eurostile; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana, serif;"><b><br /></b></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; 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"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana, serif;"><b><br /></b></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 9.5px/normal Eurostile; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana, serif;"><b><br /></b></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 9.5px/normal Eurostile; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana, serif;"><b><br /></b></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 9.5px/normal Eurostile; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana, serif;"><b><br /></b></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 9.5px/normal Eurostile; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana, serif;"><b><br /></b></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; 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"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana, serif;"><b><br /></b></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 9.5px/normal Eurostile; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana, serif;"><b><br /></b></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 9.5px/normal Eurostile; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana, serif;"><b><br /></b></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 9.5px/normal Eurostile; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana, serif;"><b><br /></b></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 9.5px/normal Eurostile; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana, serif;"><b><br /></b></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 9.5px/normal Eurostile; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana, serif;"><b><br /></b></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 9.5px/normal Eurostile; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana, serif;"><b><br /></b></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 9.5px/normal Eurostile; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana, serif;"><b><br /></b></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 9.5px/normal Eurostile; "><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana;">An exhibit celebrating outstanding alumni of the Visual Communications program at Ivy Tech Community College, Columbus.</span></span></b></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 9.5px/normal Eurostile; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana, serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><b><br /></b></span></span></p> <p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 10.0px Eurostile"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana;">Sept 20</span></span><span style="font: 7.5px Eurostile"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana;">th </span></span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana;">- Dec 31</span></span><span style="font: 7.5px Eurostile"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana;">st</span></span></span></p> <p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 10.0px Eurostile"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana;">Columbus Learning Center</span></span></p> <p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 10.0px Eurostile"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana;">Columbus, Indiana </span></span></p><p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 10.0px Eurostile"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana, serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><br /></span></span></p> <p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 10.0px Eurostile"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana;">- Graphic Design</span></span></p> <p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 10.0px Eurostile"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana;">- Photography</span></span></p> <p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 10.0px Eurostile"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana;">- Illustration</span></span></p><p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 10.0px Eurostile"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana, serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><br /></span></span></p> <p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 9.5px/normal Eurostile; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style=" ;font-family:verdana, serif;font-size:medium;">4555 Central Avenue</span></p> <p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 8.0px Eurostile"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana;">Columbus, Indiana 47203</span></span></p> <p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 8.0px Eurostile"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana;">812.374.5156</span></span></p> <p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 8.0px Eurostile"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana;">Monday - Thursday 8 a.m. - 10 p.m.</span></span></p> <p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 8.0px Eurostile"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana;">Friday 8 a.m. - 5 p.m.</span></span></p><p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 8.0px Eurostile"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana, serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><br /></span></span></p><p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 8.0px Eurostile"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana, serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><br /></span></span></p><p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 8.0px Eurostile"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana, serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;">I'm excited to say that some of my graphic design work is represented in this gallery show. I'm honored to be included. There is an opening reception next week that I am planning to attend. What should I wear? It's all about me, right? (Note: the figure in the promo photo is not me.) </span></span></p><p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 8.0px Eurostile"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana, serif;"><br /></span></p><p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 8.0px Eurostile"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana, serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;">Here is one of my pieces on display:</span></span></p><p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 8.0px Eurostile"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana, serif;"><br /></span></p><p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 8.0px Eurostile"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana, serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, serif; font-size: 16px; "><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgD8A8pXwQt6IFyhSJixxnjoBq2HMHj7sxNUjg3gVkIuj5btEbT6VMAOwnwXys9XY7Xsa3FtupTW1GPAtefKrwrFCEfm661Sg9pmXDeCWf5NF8UUxsu399t0rKDsTUNb-eCInzgecbF3eE/s1600-h/CEP-to-frame.jpg"><img src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgD8A8pXwQt6IFyhSJixxnjoBq2HMHj7sxNUjg3gVkIuj5btEbT6VMAOwnwXys9XY7Xsa3FtupTW1GPAtefKrwrFCEfm661Sg9pmXDeCWf5NF8UUxsu399t0rKDsTUNb-eCInzgecbF3eE/s400/CEP-to-frame.jpg" border="0" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5393256606083353906" style="cursor: pointer; width: 400px; height: 328px; " /></a></span></span></p><p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 8.0px Eurostile"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana, serif;"><br /></span></p>Kim Evanshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03512159440778884081noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6970959869992656374.post-18858222819023275202009-10-08T08:35:00.003-04:002009-10-08T08:58:37.406-04:00When car shopping, don’t rule out the potential for serendipity<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgAT-wBwZin8sjIrJ1gZ8MlzVtat_KaMngngqvwx-LPK_ere2zW-WuA9p8SsPg1k9W3WfSBf-PjCSwRMpJsGvQCNWRiJJeM6JCHqTLCMeke0mRgC_pwllmn-zdC6edoYr5daSwBCpz3dT8/s1600-h/Corolla.jpg"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 200px; height: 150px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgAT-wBwZin8sjIrJ1gZ8MlzVtat_KaMngngqvwx-LPK_ere2zW-WuA9p8SsPg1k9W3WfSBf-PjCSwRMpJsGvQCNWRiJJeM6JCHqTLCMeke0mRgC_pwllmn-zdC6edoYr5daSwBCpz3dT8/s200/Corolla.jpg" border="0" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5390212712662552034" /></a><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEihXGYwtePq2r-b_28DDRLw5my48bblZOK6o-BZxYGm5C49p9w_qkIih1DZrGTv_SGzoaZ8Rn0mr0JKgXh2iyxKIVBLwKeyb8bZsVij7hjn-fmcKdWC1-wbG9QmAnxUSgZzY1YotIm4YQs/s1600-h/Corolla.jpg"><br /></a><br /><span class="Apple-style-span" style=" color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family:Arial;font-size:12px;"><div id="sto-creditbox" style="margin-top: 16px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; padding-top: 4px; padding-right: 4px; padding-bottom: 4px; padding-left: 4px; border-top-width: 2px; border-right-width: 0px; border-bottom-width: 2px; border-left-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-color: initial; border-top-style: dotted; border-top-color: rgb(204, 204, 204); border-bottom-style: dotted; border-bottom-color: rgb(204, 204, 204); "><span class="sto_byline" style=" font-weight: bold; float: left; font-family:Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;font-size:12px;">By Kim Evans</span><span class="sto_date" style=" color: rgb(85, 85, 85); line-height: 19px; font-family:Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;font-size:11px;"><span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space:pre"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:100%;color:#222222;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style=" line-height: normal;font-size:12px;"><span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space:pre"> </span></span></span></span></span></div><div id="sto-creditbox" style="margin-top: 16px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; padding-top: 4px; padding-right: 4px; padding-bottom: 4px; padding-left: 4px; border-top-width: 2px; border-right-width: 0px; border-bottom-width: 2px; border-left-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-color: initial; border-top-style: dotted; border-top-color: rgb(204, 204, 204); border-bottom-style: dotted; border-bottom-color: rgb(204, 204, 204); "><span class="sto_date" style=" color: rgb(85, 85, 85); line-height: 19px; font-family:Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;font-size:11px;"><span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space:pre"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:100%;color:#222222;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style=" line-height: normal;font-size:12px;">Community Column for <a href="http://www.heraldtimesonline.com/">Herald-Times</a>, Bloomington, IN<br /></span></span></span>October 8, 2009</span></div><br /><div id="sto_content" style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; padding-top: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; border-top-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-left-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-color: initial; "><p style="line-height: 15px; ">About a year ago, my husband and I realized we needed to replace our 1995 Ford Contour. With an odometer reading of 120,000, she was running poorly, requiring us to purchase the expensive grade gasoline, and she only gave us 22 miles per gallon.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">We had special memories in our Contour. She was the car in which we brought our newborn daughter home from the hospital. She was the car whose rear passenger window became plastered with sparkly dolphin stickers placed by little hands. She was the car we drove on family vacations to the Gulf and Atlantic coasts.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">It was hard to part with our Contour. But a decade had passed, and it was time to let her go.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">We began thinking about what kind of car we wanted: economically-priced, fuel efficient, yet not hybrid (out of our price range), with plenty of room for our family of three. And safety was important. This could be the car our daughter would learn to drive in about six years. (Where did the time go?)</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">After many hours of online research, we decided our first choice was a used Toyota Corolla.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">Next was the task of finding our perfect Corolla out there somewhere, our vehicular soul-mate. I intended to conduct this car search as efficiently as possible without letting it take over my life. I entered the car-shopping zone, that hyper-alert state where one’s eyes are drawn like magnets to every car ad in the newspaper and every car lot in town. I was on a mission.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">I searched Cars.com for local deals. Nothing was quite right. I turned to the classified ads and didn’t see any prospects at first.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">Then one day I saw an ad that looked promising. Model year 2006: Check. Reasonably-low miles: Check. The type of transmission we preferred: Check. In our price range: Check. Sunroof: Bonus! CD player: Bonus! I called the number listed and scheduled a test drive that evening.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">When we arrived at the owner’s house, I noticed he looked familiar. I thought for a moment. Could he possibly be someone we knew? As it turned out, the answer was yes. He was an old friend of my parents, and was actually a guest at our wedding 15 years ago!</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">We drove the car — loved it. Everything felt right, even the color. When we returned, our friend even volunteered to drop the price by $300. Sold!</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">Things don’t usually happen this smoothly for me. Really.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">The serendipity continued. With the deal done, we chatted for a while, and the topic of music came up. Our friend mentioned to my husband that he knew a guy who was looking for a new bass player for his band.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">My husband, who had been thinking about playing in a band again, wrote down the guy’s phone number and scheduled an audition later that week. He was asked to join on the spot.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">So the end of this story finds us with a beautiful dark blue fuel-efficient car in our driveway, my husband playing bass in a band called Lazy Piranha and our Contour sold at our neighborhood yard sale to a couple who were happy to buy her.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; ">And whenever anyone asks me where we bought our Corolla, I tell them we purchased it from a family friend.</p><p style="line-height: 15px; "><br /></p></div></span>Kim Evanshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03512159440778884081noreply@blogger.com0